trying to separate romantic and sexual attraction and then figure out which is which and what way you like somebody is hard.
one of my favourite things to imagine is a teenage tom riddle making up his new intimidating nickname. just sitting at his desk and carefully printing “TOM MARVOLO RIDDLE” on the parchment. writing down “I AM LORD” and looking at the remaining letters. TOMVORDLE. no that’s no good. TORDOVLEM. absolutely not. VOLDEMORT. yes. good. this is gonna make a dramatic reveal one day. hell yeah.
Yooooo, if someone is being unreasonable after many failed attempts of you being rational and reasonable with them, stop trying to reason with them. Try to discern when something is going nowhere. Revoke attention and acknowledgement when it gives them power, and they have none over you anymore. Move forward without them. Value your time that they are no longer worthy of.